#thank god for tumblr

[sillygoofyqueer]

Second image is my bookmark. Thank you so much @freekish for that

[shipping2survive]

the only issue i have with the popularity of wednesday is the reaction of my classmates and friends when i say i ship wenclair and tylorpe whenever they ask "who do you think was better for wednesday? tyler or xavier?"

[jamietarttsnorthernattitude]

one of my friends just started watching ted lasso and i’m DYING to talk all things jamie but she’s only on season 1 so i can’t even tell her he’s my blorbo. she loves roy but i’m afraid to give something away. there’s so much in general i want to tell her but i don’t want to spoil anything.

[will80sbyers]

I see from reddit that homophobia is alive and well lmao

[bo-bo-bean]

How Mouse KaBoom joined the military

General: So. Why do you think you'll be suitable for the war?

Mouse's head: *running from explosions and standing over blown up bodies* Hahahahahahaa!! AAAAhaahahahahahahaha!!! AAAAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAA!!!

Mouse: .... I'm willing to fight for our country

[sensitivedead]

raah im trying to use my brain for the first time in years and im being too compulsive i have so many thoughts theyre hard to organize and my dopemine rn is like weewooweewooweewoo im so happy holy shit

[hawktims]

not having close friends irl that hyperfixate over a piece of media every now and then like you do is so hard like wdym you've never felt irrevocably insane over a movie/show/character????? what do you mean you sleep soundly at night just fine?? what do you mean-

[thewanderingace]

My god I hate working the phones. I hate it. Not only am I incredibly awkward on the phone but I don't know enough about this workplace to be a good person on the phone. People ask about events and I have no idea what they're talking about. People ask about who to talk to for something and I don't even know all the names of the people in my own department yet. People ask random shit and I sit there going uhhhhhhh cause I DON'T KNOW. I hate it so much. I end up feeling like a moron because of it. I really wish I wasn't put on the phone system ever again. Or at least provide better means of finding my answers. I tried looking up the event this person wanted to know about and all I could find out was that it was happening. That's it. That's ridiculous.

[savebylou]

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[cryptic-queer-cryptid]

I’m stupid proud of this edit (and it’s an apology for a sad edit I made) so I’m posting it here. If you want to follow me over there please feel free!!

[reachermori]

I continue to break my tumblr hiatus for this show because I'm so annoyed with this stupidity and feel the need to put my thoughts into words.

Apologies for the rant. It's a little all over the place, but I tried to put it in a coherent order. It mostly focuses on hating James and on how I think Ted and Jamie's relationship and arcs were wasted, especially in relation to one another.

If the ending scene is indeed Ted's dream, I think it's even worse in regards to Jamie and Beard. Essentially Ted's "happy" versions of them have them close to their abusers, who have done nothing to deserve it.

The idea that Ted's happy ending for Jamie is him reconnecting with his father, who seems proud of him, is pure projection. That's what Ted wants for himself, but he's also inserting his own good relationship with his father. (Which, if we were getting more episodes I might be okay with as it would be interesting to explore.)

The first two seasons really built up Jamie and Ted to have a good relationship, or at least be important to one another, and I still think they could have had a really powerful impact on one another.

While Jamie has grown a lot and that had a lot to do with Ted's influence, I think he could have had that talk with Ted instead of Roy about how having a positive male influence is important to his continued growth. Ted however, could have learned through Jamie and his struggles with his father's toxicity that it's okay to let go.

I have always been happy with the idea of the show ending with Ted returning to Kansas, because I thought it was important for Ted to learn that it's okay to leave and move on. Ted's biggest internal conflict is his inability to quit things, and I really wanted him to accept that quitting isn't inherently bad. Maybe even have an arc with Henry in a toxic situation that he's sticking with because he knows his dad never quits anything to reinforce to Ted how problematic that mindset is, and decide that it's okay to quit Richmond to be with Henry where he clearly wants to be. (Also I disagree with the idea that Ted has nothing in Kansas besides Henry. I doubt Ted Lasso of all people has no one. He built a community in Richmond in only three years. He'd been in Kansas the entirety of his life up until then, there's no way he has no one. Also, even if he didn't, his relationship with his son is more important and I don't fault him for prioritizing that)

This is where I think Jamie could have helped Ted's arc. They could have had parallel journeys in deciding their father's actions do not have to define them, and I think Jamie could have reached this point first and be the one to impart wisdom on Ted for once. You could even keep the "forgiveness" talk Ted gave to Jamie, and then have Jamie come back after the game and say something that conveys "fuck forgiveness, he doesn't deserve that. But I do need to let go of the pain or I'll just hold myself back from growing. Because I'm done letting him have any influence on who I am."

Instead of getting anything with any nuance or something different than every other abuse plot in any show ever, we just had the ghost of Ted all season. He was barely in this season! Especially with relation to the players. We only had one scene of Ted and Jamie talking as people (instead of talking about football strategies or Zava when the coaches just assumed Jamie was jealous instead of concerned about the team dynamics) and connecting, and it was for Ted to tell Jamie about the importance of forgiveness.

Sorry but abuse isn't something you should just forgive, especially since James isn't making amends. He's getting sober, and we don't know if it was his choice, it could have been court mandated for all we know. Also I said this in my previous post, but addiction doesn't just make you abusive, and it especially doesn't make you facilitate your child being sexually assaulted. So I don't see any world where just getting clean makes James worthy of forgiveness. More importantly is that Ted and Jamie don't know that James is even in rehab when they have this conversation!

It's bad enough that we had to deal with the cliche "forgive him for you" perspective, but now we know it either leads to reconciliation, or at least Ted hopes/thinks it should. I'm not sure which is worse, but Ted thinking they should reconcile when he lacks a lot of knowledge about the depth of abuse Jamie endured is just insane.

I really wonder if Ted knowing about Amsterdam would have changed how he handled everything, since that is - in my opinion - the worst thing we know James has done to Jamie canonically. (Or if he knew about him trying to murder Beard...) Though knowing this show and how this season was written, if there was any discussion about this they would mess it up even more. Like I can just imagine a tangent about how many sex workers are disadvantaged, and how they may not have had a choice either, and diminishing Jamie's trauma AGAIN!

However it shouldn't matter what he knows, it's not like Ted is ignorant to the abuse, he's witnessed it twice. The first time he just walked away, something else I wish the show addressed at any point. Ted only saw what James was willing to do in public, and doesn't seem to have ever considered it being worse in private or when Jamie was younger. Bringing up the first Man City match would have been a good way for Jamie and Ted to fully open up to one another and relate to each other regarding their trauma and how they've let it hold them back.

For a show that emphasizes the relationship between father and sons, they really decided to abandon all the father figure relationships they had, especially Ted with Jamie & Nate.

I actually think it works with Nate, since it's clear Nate and his father's biggest problem was that they just could never be on the same wavelength, and while they can't fix the past, they can now create the bond they always should have had. His father actually acknowledged his wrong doings and apologized, and that level of accountability is missing from James' "redemption". Also Nate's father had a good relationship with his wife and daughter, so it makes it more obvious that his and Nate's issues are due to a disconnect and not out of malice. James never had a single good character trait until they decided to redeem him out of nowhere in the last two episodes. If we at least had Jamie say something like "my dad was great before drinking" it would have at least made the rehab stuff seem a little more like redemption. But we only have Jamie and his mother talking about how James has always been like this, and will never change.

Just changing a few things to make Ted and Jamie's relationship pay off in this season for both of them, would have done a world of good.

Anyways this has been a little all over so I'll leave it here, but suffice to say, I disliked the finale...

[kraeki]

Football Twitter has somehow gotten even worse after they realized they could get paid for interactions. The amount of bullshit written there just for interaction farming is infuriating. I’m trying to block the worst of them while still getting the interesting stuff but it’s hard 😩

[joeyjoeylee]

I think it's hard to wrap your head around this, today, in 2024, and how close we actually are to those days.

My parents met in 1971 when working together at a big U.S. federal agency. Both had bank accounts at the agency's credit union that they had opened separately when they were single.

My mom had the 4-year college degree (him just an associate's degree), was a year older, and had worked at their agency 6 months longer. But that didn't matter. Because after they got married, when she went down to the credit union to make a transaction, she found out that her account had been closed due to her marriage and the funds in HER account (much more robust as she was a little saving nerd and he was a flashy spender) had been transferred to HIS account. No notice, nothing. She was told that the only thing to do was to ask her husband if she could be "added" to his account.

This was in 1972. That's not that long ago. My mom is still alive and well and obsessively monitoring all her bank accounts to this day. And it scares the crap out of me seeing so many of those 1960s/70s landmark protections for women being eroded and to see so many younger women not protecting themselves today as we regress.

[needmoneyforporsche]

Life is HEAVY

[queeriosexual-blog]

I love this God forsaken app

long hair on a man is the worlds most powerful aphrodisiac

[me-beef]

@strangeravatar made a great point

i was gonna focus on the spike-hotboxing-celestia aspect but i got distracted somewhere along the way and i think i forgot what joke i was trying to make

but dont you think its interesting how many guards of the exact same color/body type she's managed to accrue?? i do

ooohh you want to go look at our stickers so bad